Empower Your Divine Feminine and Reclaim Feeling Alive

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spring-320310_1280 pixabayEach of us, whether biologically male or female, has a choice about the extent to which they express empowering feminine qualities. Sadly, for many of us, feminine qualities have been derogated. As a result, we have diminished their importance in our lives and even repressed them. This means that we cannot give them full expression, which undermines our ability to reach our potential. We may not even consciously realize that this has occurred. Balanced incorporation of both masculine and feminine qualities is key to full engagement in life.

Consider the following seven empowering feminine qualities, and how they are expressed in your life. Do they enrich your experience or are they showing up with dysfunction?

1) Consort: This quality shows up in the archetypes of the dancer, virgin, or concubine, who emulate beauty for beauties sake. It pertains to decoration, grace, and vulnerability. It is the extent to which you can trust enough to be tender, delicate, and allowing. It is appreciation, a state of being responsive and yielding, as opposed to more masculine qualities of assertion and initiation. In its detriment, innocent appreciation and sharing of beauty is lost and manipulation occurs. When you are sensitive to this exchange, true partnership can be achieved. Continue reading

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The Middle Way: Your Secret to Success

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spinnin topThe Middle Way is about balance, but is not as simple as adjusting weights until they are equal and then you are done. This is because the weights themselves are not constant, so, you need to pay attention to how they shift in quality. In other words, it is less like linear pendulum oscillation, and more like a spinning disc. Fine adjustments allow you to more completely meet your needs and priorities, or to optimize where you concentrate your time.

Needs
Your fundamental needs do not change that much. What changes as you move beyond childhood, is the extent to which they are your personal responsibility. We often do not pay them much attention until one is neglected and we feel its absence. As long as a certain level of safe shelter, available resource,  community, accomplishment, and inner evolution is occurring, all is well. However, it is easy to see what happens if our environmental temperature becomes hazardous, or if we experience restriction of food or water. What is less obvious is the physiological reaction to solitude and isolation, or to stagnation in achievement, or development of the way we matter. These are all elements of the environment with which we surround ourselves and which may need an overhaul depending on career choices, family commitments, financial pressures, or health issues. It is up to you to find the sweet spot where you experience harmony by choosing what is required and eliminating what is not. Middle Way means bringing attention to where you do and don’t need to go, how you do and don’t need to feel, and what you do and don’t need to think. Continue reading

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Using a Wish List to Connect to Your Deepest Desires

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garden-596711_1280 - pixabayGenerating a wish list or dreams list is one way to connect to your possibilities and inner desires. The list itself can take whatever form you prefer. It can simply be a list, or it could be organized by themes, or in the form of a chart.

Taking time to generate a wish list – and it should take some time – gives you a reference point, a place to check in when you lack resolve or inspiration. Allow your list to grow with you. Don’t be afraid to remove items that are no longer a good fit, such as possessions, or skills, or activities that were a priority for previous ways of thinking. Take note of any areas where you don’t have inspiration; here you can ask what might support you in identifying what you would like to create.
It is your opportunity to brain storm and write down everything that comes to mind that you have ever wanted to do in any domain. In fact, you can use the different areas of your life for inspiration. For example: Continue reading

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Three Practices for switching ‘Doing Your Best’ to ‘Being Your Best’

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“Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later.” – Og Mandino

south-america-200995_150 flower pixabayThe ‘doing your best’ perspective suggests that we should go all out to squeeze more out of ourselves. Perhaps, this means continually attempting to give 100%, which risks burn out if we do not equally give 100% to recharging our energy!

Is it practical to ‘do our best’ at everything, or even necessary? If we try to ‘do our best’ in every detail of what we do, we fall prey to perfectionism, which makes it really hard to bring something to completion. For example, when chopping vegetables to cook, some unevenness will not affect the flavor. In many cases, more is lost by going for perfection than settling for good enough.

Striving to ‘do your best’ also increases comparison with others and brings judgment of our own presentation. However, if this statement is rephrased to ‘being your best’, our focus shifts from the outcome to the level of engagement and good enough becomes perfect. Check out these three ways to shift from ‘doing your best’ to ‘being your best’. Continue reading

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What Does The Metaphor “Life Is A Game” Teach Us?

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chess-pixabayHave you ever heard other people saying that “Life is a game that has to be played?” This metaphor brings forth interesting insights with some deeper consideration.
The key assumption embedded in this statement is that there is one game that everyone is playing. One the face of it, this might appear to be correct, but it is much more multidimensional than that. While the game of life may have similarities from one person to another, your game pieces, arena and instructions are as unique as you are. It is also totally up to you whether you choose to engage with others and play for a while by their rules. Have you ever thought about what your personal game of life looks like? What do you have to do to win? How might you lose and what are the rules you are playing by?

My game of life is not based on chance. It is about taking the time to identify the growing edge and then asking the questions that move it forward. My overall strategy has four stages. Continue reading

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