Three Practices for switching ‘Doing Your Best’ to ‘Being Your Best’

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Be Your Best

What is the distinction between ‘Doing your best’ and ‘Being your best’? The ‘Doing your best’ perspective suggests that we should go all out to squeeze more out of ourselves. This means continually attempting to give 100% in everything we do. But, there is a high risk of burn out if we do not equally give 100% to recharging our energy!

Is it really practical to ‘Do our best’ at everything, or even necessary? If we try to ‘do our best’ in every detail of what we do, we fall prey to perfectionism, which makes it really hard to bring something to completion. For example, when chopping vegetables to cook, some unevenness will not affect the flavor. In many cases, more is lost by going for perfection than settling for good enough.

Striving to ‘do your best’ also increases comparison with others and brings greater judgement of our own presentation.

What happens though, if ‘Doing your best’ is rephrased to ‘Being your best’? This shifts our perspective from the outcome to the level of engagement and good enough becomes perfect. Check out these three ways to shift from ‘doing your best’ to ‘being your best’.

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Top Twenty Habit and Goal Apps to Support Getting It Done: Part 2 online options

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Getting it done online

In Part 1, I provided some possibilities for smartphone apps that you can carry with you providing constant backup on your missions! In this entry, I continue with website based applications:

9) Irunurun:

This supports new habit formation. You begin with zero points. To earn points you enter the action or habit you want to track and weight it with a point value. As you complete the actions you want to be held accountable for, you add points. You can also build an accountability team of friends and family and selectively share your progress with them.

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Top Ten Health Apps That Allow You to Coach Yourself

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Perhaps you wanted to shed holiday pounds through diet and exercise and have a healthier lifestyle?

If your motivation has taken a hit, these apps for self-coaching provide options for measuring your health-related activities. This type of self-observation provides invaluable feedback and has been labeled the “quantified self” movement.

While I have not had personal experience with all of these, I have seen firsthand how much impact logging your behavior can have. You can no longer hide behind approximations, but find out the truth behind your perceptions of your behavior. By getting data feedback you gain support and accountability. This increases your chances of success in much the same way as life coaching. Any new objective now has additional knowledge behind it that will allow you to make more realistic commitments.

Below, I describe the main features of ten health apps for self-coaching that will support you in establishing new habits.

1. Runkeeper:

This free app for iPhone or Android enables you to map your fitness activities by time, distance, speed, pace, calories, and route. Engagement is also increased through planning, music, progress feedback, and run history.

2. MyFitnessPal:

This free web app uses databases of foods and exercises to track calorie intake and output.

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Ugh, I Really Hate That! – Five Ways to Have Fun and Make it a Breeze

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Have Fun and Make it a Breeze

What are the things that bother you? We all know the things that we dislike doing. Here are the key ones that sometimes get to me, and five possible ways to minimize their negative impact, have fun, and make it a breeze.

Cleaning (the toilet!): Tidying up is an inevitable chore. We create a mess – just by living – eating, sleeping, and exercising. Our daily functioning generates pots to clean, beds to make, and clothes to wash, and this repetition can become tedious.

Maintenance: Repairing and replacing things that break or get worn out, or simply doing what needs to be done to maintain the status quo. Servicing our car; getting the oil changed and tires rotated. Keeping the yard tidy; raking leaves, and pruning hedges. Updating our wardrobe; removing tired, or unloved clothes. Painting our home inside and out … and the list goes on.

Irritating interactions: Spending time with maddening individuals. People who rub you up the wrong way because of their opinions, requests, or behaviors. These are those that take your time and energy and leave you with feelings of being used.

On the one hand, you could just choose not to spend time on any of the things that get you down, but this would often be an abdication of responsibility and may take advantage of others who would have to pick up the pieces. On the other hand, all of these hassles can be reduced by experimenting with some simple practices. Implement these to have fun and make it a breeze.

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