Coaching Modalities

This story is about how something can be a blessing even if it doesn’t serve an originally designed purpose.

A water bearer in India had two large pots. They were hung on each end of a pole which he carried across his neck. One of the pots had a crack in it, while the other pot was perfect. The perfect pot always delivered a full portion of water at the end of the long walk from the stream to the house. Whereas, the cracked pot arrived only half full.

For a full two years, this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only one and a half pots full of water to the house. Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments, perfect to the end for which it was made. However, the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection. It was miserable that it was able to accomplish only half of what it had been made to do. After two years of what it perceived to be a bitter failure, it spoke to the water bearer one day by the stream.

Are we all metaphorically blind? Our perspective is like a view from the place we stand and frequently influences what we think, say, feel, and perceive. As well as how we act.

One counterpoint to this is attempting to place ourselves in another person’s position. The filters we have in place can also be shifted by paying attention to the things we like about something that we reflexively dislike.

If you take your own personal experience and listen deeply to the experience of another you can gain a much fuller, richer, more complete picture. Imagine how this poem would go if what is being shared is viewed as a contribution for collaboration rather than an assertion for competition. What if time and energy were invested in not jumping to snapshot conclusions?

A little story about a Mexican fisherman illustrates success. However, success means completely different things to different people as you will see …

The businessman was at the pier of a small coastal Mexican village when a small boat with just one fisherman docked. Inside the small boat were several large yellowfin tuna. The businessman complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them. The Mexican replied only a little while.

The businessman then asked why he didn’t stay out longer and catch more fish? The Mexican said he had enough to support his family’s immediate needs. The businessman then asked, but what do you do with the rest of your time? The Mexican fisherman said, “I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take a siesta with my wife, Maria, stroll into the village each evening where I sip wine and play guitar with my amigos; I have a full and busy life, señor.”