The Law of attraction at its core states that you get what you are focused on. This focus is epitomized by what we think and say which is why the book The Power of Words … that free me! by Jacques Martel is so important.
The words you use create your reality and follow from your thoughts. Do these thoughts represent freedom and love or, conversely, do they draw you away from freedom and love?
According to Jacques, every word is related to spiritual reality. Words have a vibration so better to use the ones that are life-giving. The intention behind the words used also carries a vibration that acts in concert to intensify or weaken the vibration of the word. This means that self-talk that is not loving weakens your own being. Furthermore, thoughts of others that are not loving weaken them and the exchange.
This premise is also part of the book The Four Agreements: A practical guide to personal freedom (A Toltec wisdom book) by Don Miguel Ruiz. The first of these agreements is to make your speech impeccable such that it aligns with you.
Jacques describes some of the ways you can shift your use of language to uplift your vibration.
- Say ‘I know’ instead of ‘I think’ or ‘I believe’. This acknowledges and allows wisdom from your soul.
- Use ‘Here’ instead of ‘There’ to connect with the soul beyond time and space.
- Phrase things in terms of expansion rather than contraction. For example, use more instead of less or gain instead of loss.
- Similarly use positive framing instead of negative. Talking this way amplifies possibility by emphasizing the benefits and growth points.
- Say thank you for all that you receive good and bad. This follows from the viewpoint that everything occurs for your benefit even if cannot currently see it. (It is only possible to change something that you have accepted and saying thank you brings this state of allowing and opens greater possibility for change.)
- Make requests and state goals from a space of gratitude and appreciation to shift over to having and receiving rather than absence.
- Respond affirmatively with yes instead of no even if it is not something that you plan to keep with you and carry forward. In other words, find what it is that you are saying yes to. if you don’t want to attend a social engagement it might be because you are saying yes to something that you will find more nurturing.
- ‘Always’ and ‘Never’ are all-or-nothing statements. ‘Never’ limits possibilities whenever it is used. So, try to find a middle-ground statement instead. Similarly, do not combine ‘Always’ with bad outcomes as this prevents the flow of abundance and the possibility for change.
All of these are great ways for us to be more circumspect about the way we communicate and the words we chose. Part of this is about having awareness and deliberately seeking to change habits to create more freedom and love.
Another piece that Jacques does not highlight is editing the core beliefs behind some of these speech patterns. You can even bring them to light by looking at the way you use always and never, or ask for things.